tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post7076818289672393607..comments2023-06-27T11:37:41.506+01:00Comments on Miss Write: Dear MenMiss Writehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18124843977956002391noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post-2054333624187071002012-03-08T16:30:28.902+00:002012-03-08T16:30:28.902+00:00Thank for the comment, CTS - absolutely loving www...Thank for the comment, CTS - absolutely loving www.52firstdates.com and have passed it on to lots of friends. Hope you have better luck with Mr 40 xMiss Writehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18124843977956002391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post-4865879342667956042012-03-08T15:51:05.471+00:002012-03-08T15:51:05.471+00:00First of all, wonderful write up, and an all round...First of all, wonderful write up, and an all round thoroughly ace blog. And secondly, thank you for reffing my godcawful Catfish debacle. The more dates I go on, the more I realise there are far too many people out there playing a game that, quite frankly, is childish and cruel. Take for example my latest date, Mr 39. We got on like a house on fire, and a couple of drinks later we'd already arranged a second date. But a week on have I heard from him to confirm? Have I fuck! There is probably a perfectly legitimate excuse for his silence, and of course I'm clinging onto the last remnants of hope that the second date may still be on the cards. But my experience of dating in London has led me thus far into my suspicions, and they all point to something negative. Are women this bad at dating? Really? CTS xCTShttp://www.52firstdates.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post-84651941657729333422012-03-06T12:12:04.712+00:002012-03-06T12:12:04.712+00:00I totally agree with the above sentiments when it ...I totally agree with the above sentiments when it comes to both parties not communicating well, immaturity, missed moments etc. But I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about downright, outright, shameless behaviour. And the more I hear these stories, the less sure I am that the girls are doing anything wrong. As we get older we get a healthy amount of caution and cynicism, and even armed with this there's a 'surprise! I'm a total douchebag!' factor that seems to be new and unwelcome. I don't think it's just probability; it feels more like no one's teaching these guys what is actually appropriate dating/relationship ettiquette.Miss Writehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18124843977956002391noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post-13046150623119254632012-03-06T11:23:03.274+00:002012-03-06T11:23:03.274+00:00It's lovely writing, and beautifully expresses...It's lovely writing, and beautifully expresses what we'd all like to say on occasions, but I think that the problem is much more dramatically twofold than we acknowledge. I don't think many people, male or female, really understand how to ...conduct themselves or a relationship. I'm steering away from saying "these days" because no doubt it would always have been confusing, however, there might previously have been less choice in modes of conduct and therefore more obviously "correct" patterns to adopt. Whilst accepting different ways of being is right and proper: gay, straight, serious, fun, settling, living out, married, partnered, metro, new-man, ladette, not settling for less than you deserve, finding out what you want, career/family orientation etc it does create a lot more combinations of appropriate and innappropriate behaviours depending on who you've met and how much of this they're prepared to communicate with you. Choice (of a massive range of ages, colours, sexes, classes and life stages) has never, and there have been studies on this, amounted to happiness.milynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8878802582814893123.post-78404883527926384632012-03-06T11:16:53.449+00:002012-03-06T11:16:53.449+00:00Good points. Hmm. Would it not be fair to suggest ...Good points. Hmm. Would it not be fair to suggest that a disproportionately large amount of men on the dating scene are on it by virtue of the fact they're not actually very good at dating/commitment/consideration/niceness/etc but still want something on the emotional-physical spectrum from a woman? (The second part obviously includes most men.) I'm not trying to defend any of these proper gits. I reckon, for reasons such as this, that going into the dating world is likely to yield far more misses than hits and could so easily lead to varying levels of abhorrence to the whole thing/gender. I guess what the world needs is some sort of elite dating system where people are vetted first ... But anyway, I'm sure you'll find Mr Write, if you can stand to keep filtering Mr Wrongs out of the pot. Think of it as tossing a weighted coin. Or Deal Or No Deal. But without Noel.tomrumournoreply@blogger.com